Is it really June 2nd? Is the year really almost half way over?! That just seems crazy! I guess a lot has happened since the beginning of the year & that's why it seems to have gone by so fast. Who knows? Jordan & I can hardly believe that we've already been married for 9 MONTHS!! Married life is amazing, we truly enjoy each other & each day we get to spend together. We feel so blessed that God brought the two of us together & continues to bless our relationship. On June 11th it will be our 3 year anniversary, it seems weird to say that... only because we can't really picture our lives without each other now. Funny how that happens :)
Well, I hesitated whether I was going to post about The Richards Happenings lately. But, I decided that writing about it may be therapeutic. Where to start... hmm.... after Grandma Vi's party & after Jordan's family left to go back home, I just couldn't seem to get enough rest... I was feeling very tired & just not myself. Jordan & I decided that maybe I should take a pregnancy test. Sure enough... 2 faint pink lines showed up! We weren't exactly sure what that meant. Later that day I took a digital test that came back "not pregnant". We were a little bewildered, the other test said that 2 lines are 2 lines, faint or not. So, that evening we went to Kaiser & took their pee test, we got the results the next morning & they also said negative. Something just didn't feel right, so I decided to take the last test we had... not really knowing what it would say. I took it & came back a few minutes later to find that it said "PREGNANT"... what?! I called Jordan immediately & we were both a little confused at this point :-/ I called Kaiser & explained to them what had happened & they said to come take a blood test. So, again we had to wait another day to find out the results!! On May 19th @ 6:30 in the morning I got an email notification from Kaiser saying that my test results were in, oh mylanta, this was the moment... I logged onto Kaiser's website & sure enough... it said POSITIVE!! I said to Jordan; "what does that mean?!" He said; "uhhh, we're pregnant!" We were both in shock-excited-anxious-nervous! We called Kaiser to confirm & they set up our first appointment. Jordan had already taken off work that day, so we went around town telling all of our immediate family & capturing their responses on video, it was an exciting day. As the news sank in, we both began to think of names, how we would decorate the room, what the baby would be & who it would look like. I was feeling pretty good, other than being tired & having to use the bathroom every 5 seconds ;) Fast forward to Memorial Day weekend, I started spotting Saturday morning, nothing extreme, but something just didn't feel right. We had a pretty low key weekend, spent time with family, went to church & planned on going to the church's Memorial Day picnic in the park, but Monday held other plans. I woke up Monday morning to heavier bleeding, Jordan immediately called the advice nurse at Kaiser & they advised us to go to the ER. Needless to say, I was freaking out!! Jordan was amazing & remained calm the entire time, which he knew I needed. We spent 5 hrs in the ER on Monday, I went through numerous exams & ultrasounds to find out nothing more then we knew before we went there. We were so frustrated & all the Dr. could say was that it was a "threatened miscarriage". A "threatened miscarriage", what is that?! He gave us some paperwork about it & I was discharged, the Dr. told us that there was nothing more we could do & that in other words, it was in God's hands. He told me to call & make a follow up appt. for Wednesday. So, I called & made the appt. & anxiously waited to see what was going to happen. Tuesday night I began to have excruciating pain, like nothing I had ever felt before. Jordan was so amazing through it all, he rubbed my back, kept telling me everything was going to be ok & that he loved me more than anything in the world. All I kept thinking was "I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me", powerful words, I never knew how powerful. The pain lasted a few hrs & we got a little bit of sleep that night. We later on found out that I was basically having contractions :-/ Jordan stayed home with me the next day so he was able to go to the Dr. with me. We had to wait all day until 4 o'clock to go, it seemed like forever! We anxiously waited in the room for the Dr. to come in, which also felt like forever. He came in & basically said that the quickest way to find out what was going on was to get blood work done so we could see what my HCG levels were, so we headed down stairs & got my blood work done, AGAIN. The Dr. said he would call me the next day & let me know what the results were, he said that it could go either way. He was very nice & explained to us that miscarriage's are very common & that 50% of pregnancies that have cramping & bleeding go on to be normal. Which brings us to today, I waited all morning to receive his call, I wouldn't let my phone out of my sight. He called a little after noon & gave me the news... my HCG levels had gone down, which meant no baby :( I swear Jordan must have ESP, he called me as I was hanging up with the Doctor. I gave him the news, and we both talked about how it was in God's hands. We were strangely calm about the whole thing, I'd like to attribute that to the great faith we have in our Lord. Since this past weekend, we had been saying that no matter what happens, it's in God's hands, He has the master plan. We are both very sad about what happened, but we find comfort in knowing that God knows all, He has a plan for us & our family. We will have a baby when He wants us too & we are okay with that. The last couple of days have been a whirlwind of emotions, we have had hope, we have been sad, we have grieved. We would appreciate all of your prayers during this difficult time.
Life is hard to understand sometimes & it's hard not to ask "why". We have taken comfort in these words...
"When your heart is so heavy that only the Lord has the strength to carry it, let Him. He can do far more with it broken, than you can do with it when it's whole." -Christi Armstrong
Love & Blessings,
J & J